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You are here: Home / real estate best practices / Sell more homes when you ask questions

Sell more homes when you ask questions

September 29, 2025 by Marte Cliff

Are you asking enough questions?ask more questions

When you do all the talking, you not only risk boring your clients, you don’t learn anything.

So ask questions, then give people the time and space to answer.

When you have a buyer client you ask questions about what they’re looking for, their budget, etc. You may ask them to write three lists: Must have, would like to have, and “absolutely don’t want.”

Armed with that information, you do the research and find homes for those buyers to view. That’s all good, but don’t stop there.

First there are questions to get the appointment.

Whether you’re talking with a potential buyer who called about a house or talking with a homeowner whose home you’d like to list, the first step is to get the appointment.

Instead of asking when they’d like to meet with you, give them two choices:

“I’m free this afternoon at 3:30 or tomorrow morning at 10. Which is best for you?” Of course they may say neither is good and suggest a different time, but some kind of an answer signifies that they want to move forward.

This is called an “alternative of choice” question.

By offering only 2 choices, you make it easy for the client. Of course that could lead to discussion, but that’s OK.

Next, due to the NAR lawsuit settlement, you have to ask about compensation.

This is a tough one for many agents for a couple of reasons.

First is the reluctance to talk about fees. But you have to do it. Unless you want to work for free, you have to determine whether or not the buyer can pay you. Then you have to come to an agreement about the fee.

Will it be:

  • A flat fee
  • A percentage of the purchase price
  • An hourly rate

And in each case, how much will it be?

If the buyer doesn’t have the means to pay your commission, you can, of course, show him or her only those homes offered by sellers who have agreed to pay a buyer’s agent. But since this information can no longer be shared on MLS, that means calling other agents to locate those homes.

The second reason why it is difficult is that buyers have been conditioned over decades to expect the seller to pay the commissions. Many will not have been following the lawsuit and the reasons behind it, so they simply don’t understand.

You can use an alternative of choice questions when speaking with homeowners.

Thanks to the NAR settlement, one of the questions must center on the commission. In addition to settling on your fee, they must now decide whether or not they will pay the agent representing the buyer.

Their answer must be yes or no. Then you must address the amount of the commission. While most agents charge a commission based on the selling price, it must always be negotiable. If you so choose and the seller agrees, you can also charge a flat fee or an hourly rate. The bottom line is that it must all be decided at the outset.

offer two choicesOnce the commission issue is settled, you can use alternative of choice questions when encouraging homeowners to get their houses show ready. For instance, you can ask:

  • “Will you do the repainting or hire a contractor?”
  • “Will you hire a stager or would you like me to recommend someone for a consultation so you can do it yourself?”
  • “Will you set up a kennel for the dogs or take them away with you during showings?”

Now back to the buyers:
The questions you ask while you’re viewing homes will do two things:

  • Help you understand their true preferences for future showings.
  • Help you move those buyers toward writing an offer.

Involvement questions help prospects visualize living in the home.

  • “Where would you place a Christmas Tree?” (Assuming you know they celebrate Christmas)
  • “Where would you put your big screen TV?”
  • “Would you hire a landscaper or do it yourself?”
  • “Which room would your daughter love best?”
  • “Where would you place the kid’s swing set?” (Or your vegetable garden, rose garden, etc.)
  • “What do you like most about this home?
  • “What do you not like about this home?”

The answers to both “What do you like” and “What do you not like” will help guide you in future showings – saving time and reducing frustration for both you and the buyers.

Any or all of these questions can lead to further discussion and consideration – so let those buyers talk! If you’re showing to a couple and you sense that they might want to have a private discussion, remove yourself for a few minutes. “I’ll let you talk that over while I go outside and check my messages.”

Of course, if the answers are lukewarm and you can see that this is NOT the house for this buyer, there is another important question to ask: “Is there something about this house that makes it an absolute NO?”

Tie-down questions are used to begin building up a series of “minor yesses.”

Tom Hopkins teaches us that a series of minor yesses build a momentum that often leads to the final, most ask Questions clients will answer with a yesimportant yes. That’s the one that says, “I’ll buy that.” They cause your prospects to undergo a series of emotional changes that gently move them from resistance to a decision to buy.

For the yesses to do their job, they need to be voiced, so your job is to ask the right questions.

Choose anything you believe the buyer can and will agree with. Then make a statement and end it with Isn’t it? Couldn’t it?  Wouldn’t it? Don’t you agree? Didn’t they?

For instance:

  •  “That flower border is gorgeous, isn’t it?”
  • “This fence would really keep your dogs safe, wouldn’t it?”
  • “This extra bedroom could make a good office, couldn’t it?”
  • “The rock mason did a beautiful job on this fireplace, didn’t he?”
  • “This house is sure handy to the freeway, isn’t it?”
  • Remember that you can use the inverted form of tie-downs as well. For instance:
  • “Isn’t the view of the sunset from this deck spectacular?”

Do be careful when choosing those questions. You wouldn’t want to say “Doesn’t that hot tub look inviting?” to someone who wouldn’t dream of using one.

Finally, there’s the porcupine question.

the porcupine is a tie down questionThis questioning method is called the porcupine, because if someone threw one at you – even a baby like this one – you’d throw it right back.

It goes like this: The listing prospect says “Can you sell my house in 60 days?” and you ask “Would you want to move within 60 days?”

The prospective buyer says something like “Do the appliances stay with the house?” and you reply with “Would you want them to stay?”

If the buyer asks “How much will they come down off the listing price?” You ask “How much would they need to come down for you to purchase the house?” If they give you a number (one that doesn’t make you choke), say “Then isn’t it time for us to write an offer, before someone else gets the same idea?”

Before you start thinking that this is extremely manipulative, look at it from the other side. Those questions help the clients clarify their own thoughts and feelings. If they’re thinking “Yes, but…” they know they haven’t found the right house. It’s time to keep looking.

QUOTE OF THE WEEK

“The person who asks questions is more helpful than the person who offers advice.”
James Clear

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I do recommend reading Tom Hopkins.

For a more in-depth study of how and when to ask the right questions, I do suggest reading Tom Hopkins “How to Master the Art of Listing & Selling Real Estate.”  You can get a used copy for as little as $5, including postage. (In case you’re wondering, no, that is not an affiliate link.)

This book was written in 1991, so it doesn’t cover social media marketing, texting, etc. What it will teach you is how to appeal to human nature.  The book covers things you might not do, such as door-knocking, and it suggests scripts, which you might choose not to use, but it can still be helpful to read those sections, just for the insight into human nature.

I read the reviews on Amazon, and while many agree with me, others say it’s too outdated. They’re missing the fact that while marketing methods change, human nature does not.

That’s why agents who take Tom’s advice and send Thank You Notes stand out from their competition.

One more thing: After you ask a question, be quiet and give your prospect time to answer.

You’ve heard of “Talking yourself out of a sale,” haven’t you? You do it by trying to fill all those empty spaces with your own chatter. Give your clients some space to talk themselves into listing or buying with you.

 

Ask questions, no,yes, and choice courtesy of Stuart Miles @ freedigitalphotos.net
Porcupine courtesy of anankkml @ freedigitalphotos.net

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About Marte Cliff

Marte Cliff is a professional real estate copywriter with a past - as a real estate agent and then owner/broker. She understands the real estate business, the challenges agents face, and the wants, needs, and fears that real estate clients face. She also understands the psychology of marketing.

When not writing, Marte enjoys reading, gardening, visiting with friends and family, and spending time with her canine companions. She enjoys life in a quiet mountain valley with wildlife as her nearest neighbors.

Comments

  1. Marie Nowicki says

    October 5, 2025 at 9:53 am

    Great questions Marte! Thank you

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